Comments on: I Ain’t One to Gossip (Really)

By: Get Togetha

Get Togetha — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 19:40:25 +0000

I really do believe that we attract the links we need in our lives and I needed to read this.

As a full time blogger gossip is everywhere and you can’t help but be drawn in. Sometimes you wanna chime in because it can be so addictive but in my core of hearts I know that talking trash about somebody else who isn’t their to defend themselves is dispiriting.

I honestly feel like gossiping is simply another way we run away from ourselves. As a culture we don’t like holding up mirrors to ourselves because we’re conditioned to always look outside ourselves for solutions. Cop this, buy that, blame him, blame her, blame the man, feel sorry for yourself cause don’t come from money…the messages are constant.

The greatest challenge is being consistent with what you know in your heart center is the right thing to do.

By: fatimah

fatimah — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 18:03:41 +0000

Your tongue,is your worst enemy…

By: e' Marie Ringer

e' Marie Ringer — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 11:28:46 +0000

Taming the tongue is right. Gossip is an improper use of the tongue This is how to kill a person without hands. It is hard to do and I agree you have to catch yourself.

By: ms yako

ms yako — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 12:39:05 +0000

Follow me on twitter @msyako. We can chat more.

By: ms yako

ms yako — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 12:38:12 +0000

Hey kim, I’m gonna keep this short but when I clicked on this blog all I could do is laugh my bottoms off. I really miss ” in living color”. I agree with telling everyone what’s on my mind at any given time but someimes I do wonder ifi am being to frank and should hold back because I come to realize that some folk are to sennsitive. After doing more research, I figured out that if you learn a little more. Ab outthe person you need to be frank with, there are ways to do it that wouldn’t be so harsh in their eyes. I hope this makes since.

By: Mary Witherspoon

Mary Witherspoon — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 15:17:39 +0000

Hi Kim,
How’s it going? Good I hope. I want to complement you on new’s blogging and your vibrant look. keep sharing the news while showing your beauty. It’s a great and God givin talent. Keep on movin.

Luv Mary

By: kim wayans

kim wayans — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 07:07:52 +0000

ANGEL- I appreciate your honesty…Thanks for sharing and for striving to do better with what you now know to be “gossip.”

FRANK – I’m giving you an amen to your first two points (a & b, but I can’t co-sign on point c:)

By: Frank Verschuren

Frank Verschuren — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 07:32:35 +0000

I like your truthfulness; in the end all bets are off! Dear Kim, I live in a rather challenging environment. Over the course of the years I have learnt that:
a. gossipping actually says more about (the colour of) my heart than anything about the person I’m gossipping about and actually diminuishes me.
b. most people around me I actually like in many ways, so I don’t want to hurt them.
c. there remain some few individuals I really love to hate and I do gossip about them (but only to my partner!).
I would not fret too much about your habbit. Neither would I assume that your new good behaviours towards others will necessarily affect their gossip about you all that much. Homo homini lupus est. Being good made me and will make you feel better though! Now to find something else to talk about…

By: Angel Brooks

Angel Brooks — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 19:43:00 +0000

Well everyone I’m sorry to say that I was a huge gossiper. But the thing about it was I didn’t know I was gossiping or putting someone down. To me I was simply venting my feelings about someone so I could get that weight off my chest. But all in all you never know how the person who is listening to the info is gonna take it and what they’ll do with that information. A good friend of mine say “it’s best that you keep somethings to yourself.” Which is great advice since she put in my ear that I could really say hurtful things even if it were true or because things that person said or did bothered me. I still had to take in consideration that no one’s perfect, everyone doesn’t like everyone and if that be the case leave that person alone and find other ways to vent. And try doing it in the most positive way so you can stay kind at heart. Because once you let that evil in your spirit it takes a while to get it out.

By: Dara J

Dara J — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 20:40:35 +0000

Another great topic Ms. Wayans.Everyone has gossiped one time or another. Is it a nice thing to do? Absolutely not. I’m guilty but I also have a pause button that I push when I’m about to participate in this negative activity. This makes me think and put myself in the place of the one who is the topic of discussion. There are people who try to draw you in, even church folk. However you have to be strong and resist the temptation of gossiping right along with them. When I write I talk about the good in people, what accomplishments they have made, and how they inspire others. Do I get comments? Not really because I’m not trashing someome, hurting their feelings, spreading rumors, lies, dishing out dirt or the 411. People need to live their life and stay out of other people’s business. keep up the great work!