Comments on: Listen Here

By: Paulette Facyson

Paulette Facyson — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 13:20:53 +0000

I followed this link checking out a friend, Laurita Huff Ploughman. Kim this has got to be the latest response butt I wanted you to know that I have seen all five in my myself at one time or another. That thing was funny and insighful. Thank you for not removing it. God Bless you. Much Love.

By: The Lost Art of Listening « Random Rhyme & Reason

The Lost Art of Listening « Random Rhyme & Reason — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 18:05:51 +0000

[...] one another, then why do we all think we deserve to have meaningful relationships with others?KIM’S 5 CATEGORIES OF BAD LISTENERS 1) “The Pretender”- That’s the person who pretends they’re listening to you, but it [...]

By: Keisha

Keisha — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:24:03 +0000

Hello Kim,
This was very insightful and true! I’m a firm believer in listening more than I speak. We don’t truly “hear” each other anymore. But we can change this by actively being better listeners ourselves.

Keisha

By: black hattitude

black hattitude — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 06:28:18 +0000

Hi, thanks for the great quality of your blog, each time i come here, i'm amazed. black hattitude.

By: DANGERMAN

DANGERMAN — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:20:48 +0000

Hey Kim,
I was looking forward to meeting you on Saturday at the Bridge
and getting a signed copy of your book. Unfortunately I had another
event. I love Amy Hodgepodge and so does my daughter, and she’s 25.
Ok I’ll keep an eye out for your next signing.

DANGERMAN the Urban Superhero
“Keep’in kids in school and out of jail’

By: DDANGERMAN

DDANGERMAN — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 23:42:13 +0000

Hey Kim, I just wanted to thank you for connecting with me on Twitter. I’m checking out Amyhodgepodge WOW!! this is very cool
what you have created. I can’t put it down. Your funny Kim and
very talented. Maybe you can give me some pointers. I’m following
you sister. keep on keep’in on!!

DANGERMAN the Urban Superhero
“Keep’in kids in school and out of jail”

By: Kim Wayans

Kim Wayans — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 05:14:27 +0000

KEVIN- Thanks for sharing. I’m in some great company…who knew!

By: Kevin Kane

Kevin Kane — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 09:15:01 +0000

While in business school, I often encountered the “Hollywood Listener” at recruiting events. However, they were quite focused and listened carefully unless they found out that the student they were in a discussion with still was a freshman of sorts – then they abruptly walked away “scanning the room for someone more important to talk to”.

It was fascinating that they didn’t think long-term and didn’t bother to make a discrete and socially competent exit out of the conversation.

By: Kevin Kane

Kevin Kane — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 05:52:47 +0000

Dear Kim, no it is not just you. You are backed by prominent researchers and philosophers. For example:

A U.S. congress report in the early 20th century predicted the outcome that you have reacted on. Their osciology and psychology studies showed that a massive bombardment of impressions activates a sort of ‘tunnel vision’ defense mechanism in humans. A ‘free flow of information’ would paradoxically close people’s minds.

Sir Arthur Conan Doyle exemplified this neurophysiological ‘hangup’ by instilling it in his Sherlock Holmes character (who first appeared in a publication in 1887). Though famous for his intellectual prowess and renowned for his skillful use of astute observation, Holmes refused to learn ‘irrelevant’ knowledge, because he believed that the mind had limited space.

In a Horizon article in 1965 Alvin Toffler warned about an “abrupt collision with the future”; a “Future Shock”, attributable to the shattering stress and disorientation that the emerging information age would be inducing in individuals by subjecting them to a paralyzing diversity of change, products, experiences and options in too short a time.

By 1982, in “Megatrends”, John Naisbitt and Patricia Aburdene also confirmed that we were shifting from an Industrial Society to an Information Society. They stated that: “We are drowning in information and starving for knowledge”.

Noam Chomsky, Marvin Minsky and Edward de Bono are others who have, to different extents, explored these various chemical and neurophysiological suppressors, critics, and inhibitors “which can inhibit not merely actions but entire strategies of
thought”.

As professor Minsky explains, the safety mechanism that involves people often “not listening” are there to keep us from being paralyzed. The mind tells us which thoughts we shouldn’t
think. “Negative knowledge” or “negative expertise” can be a good thing. Unfortunately, as you noticed, fewer people have been provided with the ability to manage these intellectual, emotional and sociological tools.

By: Angel Brooks

Angel Brooks — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 23:16:00 +0000

Hey Kim! I was the combination of 3 and 4. But I find that when I’m really interested in the conversation there are more traits about the person I’m speaking with that I adore. I like to be able to speak with someone and we’re both intuned to what’s being said and giving feedback..That’s how a conversation is supposed to be. It’s as if the world’s getting inpatient with some of the basic things especially when technology gives us a easy way out.